Better Late Than Never…

Dear Readers,

Sorry, I haven’t been around for a while, but due to a bout with illness, I just couldn’t make it. And since our past Veteran’s Day, I especially wanted to remember our veterans with an article. Didn’t make that either. But I do want to express my heartfelt gratitude to all the men and women who served our country with their love and dedication. And if you know a veteran, let him/her know you care. Thank you.

Now since I couldn’t get an article ready, I’m offering a little poem on a different subject that I wrote a long time ago. I hope you all enjoy it and I will be back next week with a wonderful series to get “Uncluttered” and ready for the Holidays… Marilyn

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Laugh A Little. It’s Good For You

Although I hurt a lot inside,
I sometimes joke and find a laugh.
It comes from yet another place
Along my weary path.

It usually comes up suddenly,
And takes its rightful place.
It stays around a little while
To fill the empty space.

Laughter drives away the tears,
And calms the hurt below.
It frees my soul to feel alive
Where I think angels go.

God knew I’d need this useful tool
To lift me high above the dark,
So I can see the truth of life,
And find that vital spark.

Thank you, Lord, for quips and giggles,
For making light of strife and pain,
For finding fun in spite of trial
To find my joyful way again.

I wish you a beautiful laugh whenever you need one.

 


Marilyn Fowler, Author of  “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

 

 

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The Depression Pit: Part 2 ~ “Nothing moves without a push.”

The Depression Pit: Part 2 ~ “Nothing moves without a push.”

‘The above statement: “nothing moves without a push,” could be applied to just about anything in life, but it’s very appropriate when dealing with depression.’

When we fall into that pit, it can feel like we’ll never get out, and we long for someone to reach down and save us. But it usually doesn’t work that way. There are times when a person is too weak to do the pushing, and medication is required until they’re strong enough to participate in the recovery process. And that’s okay. But for most of us, we’re stronger than we think, and we can begin recovery in spite of that hopeless feeling that churns inside.

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
   ~Martin Luther King Jr.

Try and Sit quietly, close your eyes and go within. Take your time.

1. This may sound weird, but accept where you are right now–depressed. Owning the problem and being willing to face it and resolve it puts the ball in your corner and takes some of the power away from the depression.

2. Now state your intention to climb up out of that pit. It hurts, and you want out, so you intend to get out one way or another. So there!!

3. Reach down deep inside and locate that inner strength you thought was gone. It’s still there, and it will answer your call. Now take a deep breath. You need one. You’ve just accomplished the first step to freedom.

“For peace of mind, we need to resign as general manager of the universe.” ~Larry Eisenberg

Now, give yourself permission to not be all things to everyone else. This is your time to heal. Meet your commitments, but your main focus now is you.

4. Clarify the source of your depression. Is it a problem on the outside, or is something going on within yourself? If it’s on the outside, do what you can to resolve it and then let it go. You don’t have a magic wand. If the source is on the inside, ask your Higher Self to reveal what you need to work on.

5. Use denials and affirmations. Example: I deny that this problem has any power over me. I affirm my ability to rise above any obstacle in my life and find the freedom I desire.

6. If you feel like crying, ranting, raving, swearing, etc, don’t hold it back. It will just keep popping up. However, don’t let it control you. Allot a certain amount of time for this kind of an outlet. 30mins, 1hour, 2hours, whatever you decide. Then when the time is up, cut it off. Do this again as needed. You’ll find this need will diminish.

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7. Make a deliberate effort to use props and beauty to raise your mood. Music, walking outside, exercise, watch a sunrise, eat an ice cream cone, create belly laughs (I know you don’t feel like it, but do it anyway) whatever it takes.

“Give light, then the darkness will disappear of itself.”  ~Desiderius Erasmus

8. This is one of the most important things you can do to help yourself. Find ways to help someone else. Not because you feel obligated, but because you want to. Give and get hugs. You need them too. Give and accept all the love you can. Love is the greatest healer.

“Be not afraid of changing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.”  ~Chinese Proverb

The journey back up is not easy. It takes time, and you may have to start over numerous times. But never ever give up. The will to live will always push you forward and give you the strength you need. You are meant to soar like an eagle. Accept help when it comes, but you have to flap your own wings.

I wish you joy in your heart and a smile on your face. You can make it.


Marilyn Fowler, Author, and Writer of  
 “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

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The Depression Pit: Part 1. “There Is Hope and Help From Depression.”

The Depression Pit: Part 1. “There Is Hope and Help From Depression.”

Ten years ago as I watched the miners in Chile being rescued from underground, I couldn’t help thinking about other kinds of dark pits that we humans experience–the kind we can’t see or touch, but just as frightening–a place called depression. It seems as I have read from others it is like being lost in a black abyss with no way out.

I am also sure there are times when everyone feels a degree of depression. It’s part of our human experience. But some feel it down to a desperate place of soul suffering. Just as no one can fully understand the pain those miners went through, no one can fully understand the pain of depression unless they’ve been there, ‘been through it’ so to speak. But the darkness, fear, and despair can be equally painful. And being in a dark pit seems like an appropriate analogy.

 “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” ~John Wooden

As long as we’re in the human condition, we’re exposed to painful experiences–some on the outside, some on the inside, and some in both. But with depression, no matter the source of the pain, it seems to hurt everywhere. It can actually immobilize us to a state of inertia where it feels like a permanent condition from which there is no escape.

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“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”  ~Helen Keller

But just as those brave miners escaped, there is hope for those who know the prison of depression. There is in each of us a will to live. It’s our greatest gift–the key to freedom. We can use it if we search and find it. One step is one step closer to abundant life, and the first step could be the intention.

“A good intention clothes itself in power.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

In part two, I’ll talk about some steps we can take to crawl out of the dark pit. There is a way out, even if we can’t see it when we’re at the bottom. The light is there.

Peace be with you ’til we meet again.

Marilyn Fowler, Writer/Author of   “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

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Are We Connected or Separate? Truth or Delusion? Are We All One?

 

 

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Individually we are one drop. Together we are the ocean.” ~Ryunosuke Satoro

Just as many drops of water are part of the same ocean, each person on earth is part of the same human family. And we’re all connected by energy.There’s nothing that’s not energy…including us. And this energy moves among us, uniting us, connecting us as one earth family. We can’t exist alone.We’re connected. And we need each other. Our life is within us, but it’s kept alive through our connection with others.

I sit here thinking about what I want in my life, and I realize it’s not only about me. It’s about all of us and the world we live in. My mind runs in two dimensions. What do I want for me? And how can I exist without you…all of you? It may seem impossible that my intentions, my desires, can affect anyone but me. But there is power in the energy I project with my thoughts. And what I envision today for myself and others can manifest in positive and negative ways far beyond what I imagine.

“Knowing a person is like music. What attracts us to them is their melody, and as we get to know who they are, we learn their lyrics.”   ~Unknown

I remember when I was a child during the Great Depression years, and my family lived in a large apartment building in Detroit. We were the only American-born family there. All the others were from different countries. Everyone left their doors open during the day, and I had such fun sneaking in front of each apartment door listening to different languages spoken, smelling ethnic foods cooking, being part of a wonderfully diverse world. We shared whatever we had, and offered love and compassion in the hard times. In spite of our differences, we were a family. We were connected.

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“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten we belong to each other.” ~ Mother Teresa

Today we live in an ‘us and them’ world, choosing separation over togetherness. We look down on others unlike ourselves to the point of bigotry, contempt, even hatred. We attend worship services and then condemn those different from us. And we blame others when misfortune invades our tightly knit lives. On TV we see the result of separation producing senseless loss of life. And we bolt our doors at night to feel safe. We produce enough negative energy to build a thousand tombs to hold the spoils of separation. And we don’t know we’re connected. When I abuse my brother, I abuse myself.

Albert Einstein explains our delusion of separateness. “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

 

 

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What do you want, really want, in your life? Think about it. What you envision today and hold in your mind can bring blessings in your own life and can make a difference in the world where those blessings are needed. Start with people close to you, and gradually move out to those you don’t know. Use understanding and compassion without judgment. Then allow your love energy to embrace your entire world family.

What a responsibility we have. Yes, responsibility. Each day is a new day to live life in more meaningful ways, ways that not only help determine the quality of your own life but for all those millions with whom you are connected. You may not personally see the blessings you provide with your loving thoughts, but they will land where they’re needed. And you will be blessed.

I wish you peace and joy in all the days ahead. 

Marilyn Fowler, Author/Writer ~  (My Books make great a gift for the holidays!)

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Have You Discovered Your Life Purpose? And Are You Living It Now?

Have You Discovered Your Life Purpose? And Are You Living It Now?

Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.”  ~John F. Kennedy

Most of us get a job, work hard, pay bills, solve problems, have some fun with family and friends, participate in spiritual activities, and keep our lives moving. But if you’re one of those, do you ever get a feeling maybe there’s something more, something you’re missing in your life? That feeling is a part of you inside that reaches out to your conscious awareness with a message you might want or need to know. There’s more to you than what you’ve seen so far.

“Your life has purpose. Your story is important. Your dreams count. Your voice matters. You were born to make an impact.”  ~Unknown

Each of us is born with a special purpose for our life, and something inside longs to express who we are and our reason for being here. But we seldom think consciously about such things. We know that life is a mixture of positive and negative experiences, and we prefer the positive. But how often do we actually think about our own role in helping to create a happier world? In thousands of ways our world needs help, but do you ever contemplate ways in which you might express something beneficial to others in your own special way? Hmm… What would you express? Think about it.

“The things that excite you are not random. They are connected to your purpose in life. Follow them.”  ~Unknown

We’re all endowed with talents, or gifts, things we enjoy and do well that are connected to our life purpose. And we bring these talents with us into our life to fulfill our purpose. But we don’t always recognize them as blessings that give our life meaning. And sometimes we take our talents for granted and minimize their value with an attitude that says, “Oh, that’s nothing. Anybody can do that.” But no two people can do anything exactly alike because what each person does is very special and cannot be duplicated.

Some of us express our talents in seemingly small, insignificant ways…smiles and hugs help heal a broken heart, being a good listener validates others, repairing children’s bikes brings them pleasure, etc. With others, talents can be reflected in one’s type of work…teachers, physical therapists, nurses, etc. Millions of talents, all equal in importance, all blessing someone in some way. How vital each person is in our world. And most don’t realize that the good they do is an expression of their life purpose.

“The meaning of your life is to find your gift. The purpose of your life is to give it away.”   ~Pablo Picasso

We discover our talents in different ways at different times in our life. And sometimes they’re even discovered through a painful experience. I once had a patient who suffered a back injury and felt his life was useless. He knew nothing of talents and life purpose. But he loved nature, and one day he discovered he could lay on the ground propped up on one side and grow a garden with one hand. Then his mood changed to happiness as he fulfilled his life purpose making others happy supplying beautiful flowers to hospitals and anyone who wanted a bouquet…including me.

“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.”   ~Bishop T. D. Jakes

You may not know your purpose in life, and when you ask yourself why you’re here, you may have no answers. But if you know your talent and bring it to its rightful importance, you’ll see the connection. Then use it and claim your own happiness fulfilling your purpose.

If you don’t know your talent, start noticing something you really enjoy doing, and you do it well. It could be your work, a hobby, a pastime, etc. Listen to the voice inside that says, “There. That’s it. That’s why you’re here.” And move through your life fulfilling your purpose with a happy heart.

I wish you happiness as you discover your self.

Marilyn Fowler, Writer/Author of  “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

 

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The Sea Of Life. Are You The Ocean?

Dear Readers, I live near the ocean, and sometimes when I look at that vast body of water, I think of the multitude of water droplets it takes to create the oceans, and I think of all the people it takes to create our world. We are the world. But it seems we’ve lost our sense of who we are in the great sea of humankind. I remember when we created our world together, each a part of that creation. But today we live with an ‘us and them’mentality, and we deny our belonging to each other. I feel sad. Today I want to share an article I posted a few years ago on this subject.

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Yesterday I spent the day at a hospital with a friend who had surgery. I’ve been in many hospitals in the past, but this experience made what I already knew more real to me. Each of us is unique, traveling our own individual journey through life, but at the same time part of the great whole that makes us the human race. It’s kind of like each unique drop of water being part of the whole body we call the ocean. And the ocean is not the ocean without each drop.

“Individually, we are one drop. But together we are an ocean.” ~Rhunosuke Satoro

While my friend was in surgery, I wandered up and down the halls. I’ve always been a people-watcher, but yesterday I was more keenly aware of everyone and everything I came across. I saw people in wheelchairs or walking with canes while others walked straight and tall. I saw a nurse consoling a woman who was crying, and I noticed a beautiful little boy grinning at me. I saw people in pain and heard their moans, while medical personnel saw to their needs. Contracts everywhere. Yet, in their humanness, they were all a part of each other.

Later I went outside of the building and found a concrete ledge where I sat down. I took off my shoes and rested my bare feet on mother earth, while little ants scampered around as if they knew where they were going. The sun was warm, but there was a cool breeze under the big oak tree where I sat watching a black crow scrounging for his lunch in the dirt nearby. Once in a while, someone sat next to me. Some were happy. Some were not. But each had a story to tell–a unique story, yet part of all the stories that portray who we are.

“Life is like the ocean. It can be calm or still, and rough and rigid, but in the end, it is always beautiful.”   ~Unknown

As the day moved on, the hospital became a microcosm of the bigger world, and I became more increasingly aware of life and our connection with each other. We each know sadness and joy, pain and bliss, feast and famine, love and hate, lack and plenty, illness and health–everything in the human experience. And we’re never alone in any of it. While we’re going through something, another person somewhere else is going through the same thing in their own unique way. How sad we don’t claim the ocean in which we swim. It’s really quite a beautiful ocean in spite of the differences we believe separate us.

I’m grateful for this hospital experience. It reminded me we’re much more than what we see in the mirror. In essence, Mother Teresa says, “We know that what we are doing is only a drop in the ocean. But if the drop were not there, the ocean would be missing something.” You serve an important part in the sea of life, and your unique presence helps maintain the sea in which you live. Love yourself, and pour your love out to others. And claim the beautiful ocean in which you swim. It is your home.

I wish you much happiness on your journey. 

Marilyn Fowler, Writer/Author of  “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

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Part Two – Are You Living Images And Roles You Were Given As A Child? Where Is Your True Self?

Your essence is within you. You are already enough.”  ~Debbie Spellman

For the most part, each day we automatically live our life without thinking past our usual activities. But we’re complex beings, and our role, image, and personality are so ingrained from childhood, we don’t usually question our identity. Personality becomes our ‘I am’ and, for many, that satisfies a need to know. But it doesn’t even touch the great dimensions of all that you are. Self-knowledge is one of our greatest tools to discover and uncover our true self and use this self for good. The more you know about yourself, the better you’re able to choose what to keep and what to release to promote what you want your life to be.

We express from personality and from our true self, and the two are quite different. Personality is changeable and can have different opinions about itself. One day you’re a very bright person, and the next day you’re pretty stupid. Or decisions you make via personality can backfire and reveal parts of you that you’d rather not have. But there’s nothing wrong with expressing from personality. You can learn a lot about yourself from this source of expression.

People apply different meanings to the true self, such as authentic, true nature, deeper or higher self, the core of your being, soul, etc. But it is considered the real you, as you were created. And the essence of you cannot be something different. You are you, and you will always be you.

Somewhere tucked away inside each of us is a memory, memory of the self that existed during childhood before we fully assumed a role, an image, a personality. And part of us longs to recapture that time of innocence when we knew our true self well. With purposeful steps toward change, we can dim some of the personality’s hold on us, and know more of our true self.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”  ~E. E. Cummings

Intentions are one of our most powerful tools for change. And when it stems from the good in your heart, it will bring good into your life. Use intention with desire, willingness, commitment, and faith to change. Reinforce these qualities each day, and with your deep feelings to move forward, your courage will be there. No need to hurry. Change comes gradually over time.

Once you establish your decision for change, you need to begin listening. How often do you listen to how your personality thinks and notice what it does? What do you feel is positive and negative about it? What does it tell you about yourself, and do you agree with it? We’re taught to believe that personality is who we are. But do you ever sense that you’re more than this belief? Pay attention, and learn to recognize this part of you.

“Intuition is the voice of the soul. The more you listen, the more you know your true self.”   ~James Van Praagh

Clarify your meaning of true self, who and what you are within, and listen to it speak to you. Our true self-speaks to us often, but with our busy minds, we miss a lot of its messages. It’s uplifting, and will always guide us with love and wisdom. But we have to hear it. Seek ways to communicate with and express your true self. Play like a child, show kindness to others, claim your own worth.

The goal of this change is not to erase personality, but to release the traits you don’t want, and allow it to compliment your true self as the two can work together for your good. As days pass and you increase your knowledge and understanding, you’ll learn to tell if something is coming from personality or your true self. And you will gradually learn to decrease more of personality and increase more of your true self.

This is a vast subject, and mounds of material have been written in detail about who you are, and how to discover and nurture more of you. You’re on a journey of self-discovery. Read, research, express gratitude, and be your beautiful self.

I wish you joy as you blossom into more of who you really are.

Marilyn Fowler, Writer/Author of   “Silent Echoes” and Me and Granmama in the Hill Country Available Amazon online…

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