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Do You Know Your Greatest Self?
Looks like that hotdog knows how great he is, and he doesn’t mind flaunting it. I think he knows about validation, because to feel you’re that awesome, you must feel a sense of validation. That’s something we all crave in life, an inherent need. Oprah Winfrey said it well, “I’ve talked to 30,000 people on this show and they all wanted was validation. Everybody wants to know, “Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything?” And I would add, “Do ‘I’ mean anything?”
We begin learning about ourselves as children. Do you remember when you were a kid, and people made negative comments about you? It can have a profound effect. When I was a child, at home I was forbidden to express any problems, negative feelings, or opinions, and I felt awkward saying anything. Then that little invalidating voice inside with its big mouth would say, “No one wants to see or hear you, so you don’t mean anything.” And I believed that jerk. I’ve always been a short person, so making matters worse, my bullying classmates at school sometimes asked a jolting question, “Are you standing in a hole, or are you really that short?”
Well, I was one invisible mixed up kid, not like that hotdog who knows who he is. It took me a long time to learn that other’s opinions are not me. I’m already me. Sometimes that invalidating voice still pops up in my mind, but now I know that’s a jerk to be ignored.
Have you ever been talking to someone and noticed the intent look on their face as they listen? That look that says they really see you, they hear you. That’s the look that says, “you have value, you belong”. But what about the other looks that say, “get outa here, you’re not worth listening to”. The positive response feeds your soul, and the negative hurts your heart. You feel like a yoyo. And that’s life. So can anyone really give you true validation? Other people have their opinions, but the real truth is within. And that’s the only place to find your greatest self, who you really are, no matter what happens on the outside.
Your greatness in this world was established when you were created, and no one can validate or invalidate that. You’ve always had it. It’s real. It’s yours. And you can’t get it out there. So look within and affirm your authenticated self. Enjoy the ones who warm your heart and see that greatness in you. And thumb your nose at the other stuff. You know who you are, and you are awesome!
I wish you many blessings for your awesome self.
Marilyn Fowler, Author