You look back at your life, and you wonder where the time went. And you wonder if you could have done a better job on your journey through all those years. Once in a while we all take a look back, and we may ask: Could I have avoided the mistakes? Should I have made better choices? Did I waste my talents? How could I have hurt someone? How did I get where I am? And why?
You open up the book, and a part of you says, “Look at me, and be honest about what you see. Do you see self-blame, sorrow, guilt?” Maybe not that severe, but enough to bring you to a place where you’re tired of living with regret. You’re a good and kind person, and you never meant to hurt anyone or yourself. But you did at times in the past. Well, you’re not alone. We’ve all done that. But there comes a time when you can’t allow your past to contaminate your future.
Someone once told me that whatever we do, it’s always according to our growing ability at the time. And ‘growing’ is key. Hopefully we grow and learn as we go along. Of course we make mistakes, but maybe we have to climb those mountains in order to learn what we need to know to move forward. Maybe we need those experiences to teach us who we really are. And we could have come no other way to grow in a positive direction. But getting stuck in regret, self-criticism or blame can sabotage where we want to go now.
A few years ago I was stuck in regret, and the following poem helped me to forgive myself for my mistakes, my poor choices, and for unintentionally hurting someone. And this poem helped me understand the journey we all travel and the experiences we need to push us forward.
NO OTHER WAY by Martha Smock
We really are on a grand journey, no two of us alike, each unique with our own mistakes in need of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a great healer, and the place to start is with yourself. It cleanses your soul and allows you to release what causes you pain. It gives you freedom to express more of your true Self. And when you free yourself from blame and regret, then it’s easier to forgive someone else.
If you have any regrets, know that every decision you made was based upon your knowledge at the time, and hopefully every turn in the road made you wiser. Forgive yourself, claim your freedom, and live each day as it comes. Whether you know it or not, you’re quite different today than you were yesterday, and you’ll not be the same tomorrow. So love each new day and the continued newness in you.
Keep your eyes and heart on the road ahead.
Much Happiness Friends,
Marilyn Fowler, Author & Writer