Each of us is on our individual journey through life, and many of our choices were programmed as children. So we developed a personality. And many of us take life for granted, rarely questioning where we’re going until we get old and wonder where it went. We forget to be who we really are. And who we really are is the best part.
“Freedom is a possession of inestimable value.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero
On your journey, how are you living your life? do you ever seriously think about who you are underneath and what’s important to you. What do you value in your life, tangible and intangible? I greatly value freedom…freedom to be the kind of person I want to be and to express in ways I choose.
Every experience you’ve encountered is written inside, the good energy that makes you smile and the negative energy that makes you cry. That’s where you keep your anger and resentment toward the people and situations that have hurt you,..and your regret and condemnation over your own imperfection. But things like that don’t stay buried. Every once in a while they break loose and bombard your mind and the pit of your stomach. Every time you think of a particular person or situation, you relive pain from the past, and when you think of your own shortcomings, you feel regret and disappointment. It’s like a stifling non-forgiving prison to which you’ve sentenced yourself.
“Forgiveness is for yourself because it frees you. It lets you out of that prison you put yourself in.” ~Louise Hay
Sometimes you put all these feelings in a corner of your mind and pretend they’re not there, or you rationalize and say you have a right to feel the way you do. And maybe that’s true. But unforgiveness binds you to the person or situation that hurt you and to your own negative feelings about yourself. And you see no way out of your bondage.
“It is not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are.” ~ Roy Disney
Letting go of negative feelings about a person, a situation, or about yourself is difficult, but it can only be done by you. So it’s wise to know your values and be willing to work toward your freedom. Do you value a clear mind, a heart that’s free to love yourself and others, peace in your soul, and a life that leaves you free to be who you are? Think of how you want to live your life, and begin creating your freedom with forgiveness.
Forgiveness and love are 2 sides of the same coin. When you forgive, you are free to love. And when you love, you are free to forgive. So both are involved in the process of forgiving. How you choose to do this is up to you. Some say it’s easier to forgive others and situations, some say it’s yourself. The sequence doesn’t matter. But bring your feelings to the surface, and forgive with love in your heart.
“Anger begets more anger, and forgiveness and love lead to more forgiveness and love.”
Think of situations in your life in which you feel resentment, frustration, etc…situations regarding illness, relationships, money, home, work, time, etc. Tell them you’re withdrawing your negative feelings, and you’re sending forgiveness and love. You accept what you can’t change, and you claim your own freedom from pain where they’re concerned.
Think of people you want to forgive, and use much the same dialogue. Withdraw your negative feelings toward them, send forgiveness and love, claim your own freedom from pain, wish them well, and let them go.
Take a good look at yourself. What is there about you that’s difficult to forgive? And is it really that bad? Replace painful feelings with forgiveness and love for yourself, and see yourself filled and surrounded with a bright light of healing love, knowing you are healed and free. And claim your freedom with gratitude.
Do what you can to remedy situations in your life, send love to anyone or anything that needs your forgiveness, and never exclude yourself from the process. These steps may take practice and time, but once you free yourself, be aware of any future need, and resolve it quickly. You are beautiful, and you are free . . .
I wish you much peace with yourself and others.
Marilyn Fowler, Writer/Author of “Silent Echoes”
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