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So, just how trusting are you?
“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” ~ Frank Crane
Most of us live in one category or another…trusting too much and open to deception, or not trusting enough and missing some of life’s blessings. Where do you fit in these two categories when dealing with situations…people in your life…yourself? And where’s the balance?
We usually consider whether or not to trust other people in various life situations. Then we continue our own failure to trust ourselves. But there’s no one more important in your life than you. After all, you’re the one who creates your quality of life with the decisions you make everyday. And your method for trusting has a lot to do with outcomes. Something to think about.
Trusting too much: It feels good to face each day with a sense of trust. But that doesn’t mean you can trust everything and everyone. Maybe most people in your life are trustworthy, but experience teaches us there are people out there who see that trusting look in our eyes, and they can take us on a devastating ride.
“When I grip the wheel too tight, I find I lose control.” ~Steve Rapson
Lack of trust: So then we face each day not trusting anything or anyone, and seek to control the people and situations in our life, thinking that will provide the security we need. But fear is always beneath one’s need to control, and it ultimately makes us feel more vulnerable and less likely to produce what we want. Control leads to bondage…not freedom. Focusing on people and things outside of yourself with too much or too little trust is not the answer to the kind of life you want.
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ~Goethe
For many of us it’s hard to trust our self. We know all of our faults and shortcomings. We remember our mistakes. We remember trusting and being hurt or feeling sorry when we didn’t trust enough. And we doubt our ability to make sound decisions…or even try. Fear is powerful energy, and facing the unknown is scary. Even if you know your answers are found within yourself, braking old habits is difficult. But blocking trust in yourself leads to unfulfilled dreams held in your heart and also causes faulty decisions with situations in your outer world. But change can be accomplished. According to Mandy Hale, “It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.”
When making decisions, your head is where you find needed information in a situation but mixed with the fear and uncertainty your ego-self is telling you. And your true-Self is where you find instinct and intuition…that special, peaceful, all-knowing place that touches your heart with truth. These two–head and heart–can work well together, but ultimately you must listen to what your heart is telling you, for this is where you will find your answers.
“Slow down. Calm down. Don’t worry. Don’t hurry. Trust the process.” ~ Alexandera Stoddard
It may take a while for you to transfer from the sometimes faulty thinking of your mind to trusting the truth of your inner voice, but with practice this transition can occur.
1. When you need physical information, gather it from your environment. Then go within and ask for help with your final decision.
2. Listen for your answer. It may come as a voice, a feeling, a knowing.
3. Be patient and wait. Your answer may not come immediately. You may be driving your car, doing the laundry, busy at work, or whatever, when you suddenly know your answer.
4. Develop an attitude of trust in your life as it unfolds.
You will make mistakes as you go along. But trust your Self. You have always had this part of you that can lead to confidence in yourself and your life. Release the worries, and know you’re cared for. All is well.
I wish you trust in your beautiful Self.
Marilyn Fowler, Author of
“Silent Echoes” & Me and “Grandmama in the Hill Country”