“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~ Aldous Huxley
Everyone’s life holds a unique story like no other. We write each chapter with visions of happy times, and we expect each one to unfold as we intend. But some become struggles when nothing we do turns out the way we planned or wanted. We goof up, and our fellow characters don’t act the way they’re supposed to. And what could have been a good experience turns into a nightmare. The whole thing seems to make no sense, and we throw up our hands in confusion.
Every story needs some kind of conflict or struggle to make the winning worthwhile, but too much is too much. It’s really hard going through the senseless times when it feels like that’s all there is and it will never end. It doesn’t seem fair but, whether we like it or not, we’re involved in every scenario.
If someone tried to hand you a bag of smelly garbage, you could back off, curl up your nose and say, “No way. I’m not accepting that.” But what do you do when life throws you a curve? Do you stand there and ponder the sense of it, or do you change what you can, accept what you can’t change, and work on creating something better?
“When we struggle to make sense of things, life looks on in repose.” ~Unknown
Sometimes things don’t make any sense.
They’re squandered in the air.
And then they make me realize
That life just isn’t fair.
I wonder where I’ll go from here.
A new way on my path?
Will I cry another day,
Or find a way to laugh?
You know it isn’t up to others.
It’s really up to me.
I have it all inside.
The way for me to see.
It doesn’t have to make any sense.
It doesn’t have to be fair.
So give up all the questioning,
And just make sure you’re there.
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
When you can’t dodge the bullet and you’re going through one of those painful times, you may not
be able to change the situation
or your character’s actions
. But your answer is no
t in the situation or their actions. Your answer is
in your response…your approach to the problem. Take a note from Arthur Ashe
who said, “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
Even when you stumble, you have the power
to make everything better than what it is, because you really do have inner resources
you may have never used or even know about. So how about being more the creator
and less the ’emotional responder’
. You can step up and re-write this chapter to contain your inner strength and a sense of peace and hope until you get to write one of those happy chapters with a better outcome.
Marianne Williamson says, “The more you truly show up for life–not hanging back but really investing yourself heart and soul–the more life will show up for you.” So when things don’t turn out the way you want or planned and you’re sitting in a seemingly helpless place of confusion, give up any fretting or self-judgment, listen to your heart, and draw on that inner part of you that knows how to deal with life’s challenges. You’re a marvelous being, capable of writing the greatest story there is…your life. You can create a good one, even when it makes no sense.
I wish you easier times on a happier journey.
Author & Writer Marilyn Fowler
- “I’m a retired Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Psychotherapist. However, retirement is not for me, so I stay busy. I belong to a writer’s group and am active in my church. E-mail me at: NonnieFW@aol.com “