Much of the time we’re busy dealing with life and don’t think much about where we’ve been, where we are now, and where we want to go. But once in a while in rare quiet times, do you ever observe your life and wonder how you came to where you are now? And are you where you want to be? Do you see patterns in your life over the years? And could the answers be connected to limiting beliefs you hold in your subconscious?
“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.” ~Earl Nightingale
It’s been said that 5% to 10% of our mind is conscious, and 90% to 95% is subconscious. So you can see where the power lies. As children we receive messages, positive and negative, about our self, other people, and our world. And our adult life is a reflection of these messages formed into a belief system held in our subconscious mind. So when we feel like our decisions stem from our conscious mind, it’s our subconscious that’s directing the scenario. And this can lead to confusing results when our conscious mind has good intentions.
“Yours is the energy that makes your world. There are no limitations to the self except those you believe in.” ~Jane Roberts
Self-limiting beliefs about your self may be holding you back from your full potential. Do your dreams seem too lofty? Are you uncomfortable asking for what you want, or you’re not deserving? Or you may hold a belief that won’t let others into your space, and it’s difficult to have close relationships. They can’t be trusted or they wouldn’t hear you anyway? Or you may see the world as a hostile place, and if you step out of your comfort zone, you’ll just get hurt. Your life reflects your beliefs. Have you ever heard anyone say, “I don’t know why this always happens to me?” Have you ever said that yourself?
“Life wants you to win…Please get out of your own way.” ~Robin Sharma
So what is your subconscious telling you? No one knows everything that’s in their subconscious, but to have a more harmonious life, it’s wise to look at what’s driving you. Then you can expand on your positive beliefs and work on changing the negative ones. You can’t hear clearly when your mind is running full speed, so begin by calming it down. Get quiet and ask for help within to release what you need to know.
There’s energy in a thought…it increases when spoken…and further increases when written. Be conscious of this process when creating change. And never, ever, claim anything negative with the words ‘I am’. You may say, “I seem to” “I appear to” “I deal with” etc. But use ‘I am’ only with the positive.
Positive beliefs: Think of some positive beliefs about your self, other people, and the world. Observe your thoughts, speak them a loud, and make a list of them, using ‘I am‘ when needed. You’ll be surprised at your long list. Becoming more aware of your positive beliefs and increasing their energy will make it easier to deal with the negative ones.
Negative beliefs: Think back to your childhood. Remember painful things people said to you, or unhappy experiences with others, or what you observed in your world that disturbed you. What messages, or beliefs, did you create from those experiences?…like “You don’t deserve” or “Nobody wants to hear you” or “You’re not good enough”, etc. Think of the belief, say it a loud, and write it down…but do not use ‘I am’.
Replace the negative beliefs: Now create a positive belief to replace each negative one, such as…from “You don’t deserve” to “The Universe has many blessings for you, and you deserve every one of them and more.” As you work through each negative belief, write it down, and then write down the positive one.
Process to release: As you move along, close your eyes and imagine a balloon, any color, and put the negative written page, or pages, in the balloon and seal the top. Then give the balloon a tap and watch it glide upward and disappear into the clouds as you say goodbye and release your negative beliefs. Then recite your positive beliefs with confidence. This exercise is teaching your subconscious to release the old and to accept the change you’re creating in your life.
Your ego self is very stubborn and resists change, so be patient and remember change is an ongoing process and will unfold over time. Each day be aware of your actions and feelings in different situations, and repeat the process as needed until your positive beliefs take over. Changing beliefs is part of your journey, so take charge and claim your freedom.
I wish you a peaceful heart as you move in truth.
Marilyn Fowler, Writer and Author