With each life situation, positive and negative, we take with us the energy, the tone, the spirit from the event as we experienced it. And without conscious consideration, we can lose touch with the good times and too often revisit the painful ones. But we always have the power to dilute or release the painful energy and take the good energy with us. Whatever you take with you into the coming year will greatly influence your life as you move along. So it’s important to sift out the essence of past events so you’re clear on what to take with you and what to leave behind. You don’t need negative energy holding you back when you want to move forward in positive ways.
Good times become good memories, and bad times become good lessons. ~Unknown
Maybe you can’t erase a painful memory, but you can quiet the painful tone of your experience, come to peace with it, or let it go altogether. And sometimes something good can come out of the experience. For many years I lived with serious depression and cursed each morning I awoke with the same feelings. But after 2 1/2 years of therapy, I chose to leave the pain behind and take with me the lessons I’d learned. I went back to school and worked in the mental health field where I understood my patient’s pain. And I was grateful for those depressed years as preparation for what I was meant to do.
No matter how well we prepare for each day, we sometimes hit a bump in the road and slip into an “ain’t it awful” mood. Then revisiting the spirit of our good experiences can move us forward instead of sinking where we might go otherwise. But for this pattern to become a part of your life, it’s necessary to develop more awareness of situations and how you generally respond to them.
Notice how you react, how you think–chronologically, haphazardly, in the bathtub, in nature, biting your nails, listening to music? What makes you cry? What makes you laugh? Who are you, warts and all? And notice what pushes your buttons. The better you know yourself, the better you know what makes you happy and what doesn’t…and the better you know what to release and what to take with you into this year. Think about it in terms of the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual part of your life. All of these parts are interconnected because they’re all you. But there are times when you function mainly in one part of you or another in different situations. And these times may stand out.