What Part Of Your Life Will You Take With You This New Year? Think About It.


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Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.   ~Unknown

This time of year there’s talk about new years resolutions…and that’s fine. But there’s a lot more to creating the kind of year you want than resolutions. Without clear direction, you will probably spend a lot of time this year in last year’s status quo. So you’ll need to make some sound choices as you enter this year. And it’s important to create the kind of energy you need to make those choices.

With each life situation, positive and negative, we take with us the energy, the tone, the spirit from the event as we experienced it. And without conscious consideration, we can lose touch with the good times and too often revisit the painful ones. But we always have the power to dilute or release the painful energy and take the good energy with us. Whatever you take with you into the coming year will greatly influence your life as you move along. So it’s important to sift out the essence of past events so you’re clear on what to take with you and what to leave behind. You don’t need negative energy holding you back when you want to move forward in positive ways.

Good times become good memories, and bad times become good lessons. ~Unknown

Maybe you can’t erase a painful memory, but you can quiet the painful tone of your experience, come to peace with it, or let it go altogether. And sometimes something good can come out of the experience. For many years I lived with serious depression and cursed each morning I awoke with the same feelings. But after 2 1/2 years of therapy, I chose to leave the pain behind and take with me the lessons I’d learned. I went back to school and worked in the mental health field where I understood my patient’s pain. And I was grateful for those depressed years as preparation for what I was meant to do.

No matter how well we prepare for each day, we sometimes hit a bump in the road and slip into an “ain’t it awful” mood. Then revisiting the spirit of our good experiences can move us forward instead of sinking where we might go otherwise. But for this pattern to become a part of your life, it’s necessary to develop more awareness of situations and how you generally respond to them.

Notice how you react, how you think–chronologically, haphazardly, in the bathtub, in nature, biting your nails, listening to music? What makes you cry? What makes you laugh? Who are you, warts and all? And notice what pushes your buttons. The better you know yourself, the better you know what makes you happy and what doesn’t…and the better you know what to release and what to take with you into this year. Think about it in terms of the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual part of your life. All of these parts are interconnected because they’re all you. But there are times when you function mainly in one part of you or another in different situations. And these times may stand out.

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Memories are the key not to the past, but to the future.  ~Corrie Ten Boom

Think back over your life. Is there some pain you carry with you…past mistakes, regrets, losses, hurts? Explore each situation and observe your thoughts and feelings. Where do you feel the pain? Identify and clarify the energy, the tone, the spirit involved. Now choose to either work on them, learn from them, and/or let them go. If you choose to release them, visualization is a powerful tool. Sit quietly and imagine a big balloon any color you want. Now create a shape, texture, and color for what you want to release, dump it into the balloon, seal the balloon and allow it to float up into the sky. And tell it goodbye with an inner sense of release and gratitude.

Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.”  ~Mary Oliver

Use the same technique to revisit the good times in your life and identify the essence in those events. Make your resolutions, but take the energy, tone, and spirit of the good in your past…the love, peace, joy, laughter, etc…with you into the new year to enhance your future. What you create today becomes your tomorrow.

I wish you many happy tomorrows!


Marilyn Fowler, Author/Writer



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