On our journey through life, we take much for granted, with little note of who and what we are as people. But we are complex creatures, and for centuries Scholars and Theologians have sought to explain us physically and metaphysically…physical, ego, spiritual, soul, divine, conscious, subconscious, superconscious, and so on…with varied opinions as to who and what we are. I disagree with some, and you may disagree with me. So we each accept what feels right to us.
It’s not necessary to know all of our complexities in order to live in harmony with our ego and true self. But it is important to understand these two parts of ourselves, how they relate to each other, and how they can work together for our common good. We are innately a spiritual being, or true self, expressing in a human body. But as children, we accept negative feedback from our environment and deny our true self with false beliefs about who we are. And we create an ego identity that becomes an active part of our personality.
“The ego is the false self-born out of fear and defensiveness.” ~John O’Donohue
With this ego identity, we think, feel, and act in ways that interfere with our ability to be happy. We may experience the illusion of separation and limitation, or be driven into destructive habits for a false sense of worth, or feel vulnerable, and we use control to protect ourselves. We may even assume a false grandiose self-image to cover feelings of insecurity, regret, guilt, etc. And our every thought automatically goes into our subconscious and finds expression in our life, positive and negative. We’re not aware of all that’s in there, but we live our life based on its content.
“Be guided by spirit and not driven by ego.” ~ Allison
When you think about who and what you are, you may include the negative in your self-image…beliefs like ugly, stupid, clumsy, not as good as, lacking wisdom, etc. But you are none of that nonsense. That’s just what ego is saying you are. And ego is mistaken. In truth, you are that spiritual being with divine qualities. And your true self is completely aware of your true nature with unwavering knowledge that you’re not anything that limits the expression of your spiritual self. It involves the love and peace you long for, and always promotes union instead of separation.
“Your true Self never doubts. Your false self does so you can see and identify who you are and who you are not.” ~Roxana Jones
The ego wants control and resists change. But it can be tamed, and its qualities can be made to work for our benefit. It is strong, clever, and resourceful, and being a tempter, it presents opportunities for us to make valuable choices that can redirect us in positive ways along our path. If we’re to find the love and peace we long for, our ego must learn to stop and listen to the voice of truth inside. And this must involve teaching your ego self who you truly are–a spiritual being with divine qualities.
Understanding and awareness are the first steps to releasing ego and becoming more of your true self. Next week I’ll talk about ways to identify and correct your ego’s misguided tools for living.
So Be Happy!
Marilyn Fowler, Author/Writer