How Well Are You Living On Your LIFE Journey?


We seldom think of life as a journey, but that’s what it is. For most, it goes from infancy to old age, and we travel through many situations with different people, places, and experiences. And most of the time we don’t really notice where we’re going. We just move along and deal with whatever comes up. But every single moment is a precious part of what makes your journey unique.

“Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not their journey to make sense of. It’s yours.”  ~ Unknown

Our journey is like a tapestry where our life weaves many designs reflecting our happiness, our pain, our challenges, opportunities, lessons, and yes, our blessings. We face many changes, some welcome, some bitter memories, but all a part of our own individual journey that no one else can live for us. As you move through the years, every thread is woven by you and becomes a part of who you are.

Sometimes your journey provides pit falls with people and situations that pull you down. And you feel lost. Did you make a wrong turn? Where is your road? How can you go on? But then you dig deep inside where guidance is always there to lift you back to your familiar path, the one you know in your heart is where you belong…your rightful place on your journey. And you begin again, stronger and wiser than before.

“Somewhere on your journey, don’t forget to turn around and enjoy the view.” ~Unknown

Our journey consists of a series of stages where life takes on new flavors with new ways to live each day. Although we may fight the passage of time, each stage is equally important with opportunities to learn and grow. We all know nostalgia, and sometimes we want to go back. But on this journey when the road gets rough, we can’t make a U turn and go back to happier, easier times. Those memories you want to recapture now live in your mind and heart.

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Oh, how I remember when my children were small. I rocked my babies, rode on the sled with them when they got older and when my son fell off his bike, I got the gash in his head sutured, I ordered art lessons for my other son and made my daughter’s prom dress. Treasured memories, some wonderful, some not so wonderful. You know what I mean. You have yours too. Did you realize time was passing when you lived those years? I didn’t. I just took it all for granted.

Then one day I looked around and realized I had aged, and I wondered where it all went–those precious memories, my clear skin, my flat tummy and my firm rear end. Wow. It must have happened when I wasn’t looking. Time has a way of creeping up on us, and we don’t notice the changes until they’re demanding our attention to make necessary adjustments.

“Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative place where no one else has ever been.”  ~ Alan Alda 

So much is said about living in the present, but I think we don’t realize the full meaning of the word ‘living’. To live is to learn, to savor, to share, to be aware of self and others, and to know where we are on our journey and what we want to do with it. We have the power to create the quality of our lives in spite of challenges. Did you know that? And you’re probably a lot smarter than you used to be, so you’re more able to create the quality you want.

Think about where you are now, and where you want to go. Keep the precious moments from the past, and forgive your mistakes. You did the best you could according to your growing ability at the time. Don’t carry them now. You’re a beautiful being on a glorious journey of self-realization. There is a Divine purpose in your journey, and you’re part of that Divine plan for yourself and humanity. Hang on and enjoy the ride.

I wish you much sunshine on your journey…

Marilyn Fowler Author, and writer for “Keys To Recovery,”  “Silent Echoes”  and  “Me and Granmama in the Hill Country”  

Ways To Make Wise Choices And Avoid Consequences You Don’t Want…

“Everything we say or do in life is a choice.”  ~ Unknown

Push a button, turn on a thought, talk, get dressed, drive somewhere, thousands of actions every day. We’re creatures of habit, and most of the time we’re unaware that each action is a choice, and each choice has a consequence. Of course, we need to form habits to function on a daily basis. But each decision we make creates a result, positive or negative. And it pays to understand the bigger picture so our major choices can benefit us as well.

“For every choice we make we set a cycle of energy and consequence into motion.”   ~Caroline Myss, PhD

We take everyday habits for granted. But you choose. And those daily activities probably meet your needs. But what about major decisions about work, finances, relationships, health, home. etc…those choices that are difficult to undo or change? And what about situations that just happen through no fault of yours? A few years ago, I experienced a serious car wreck. I didn’t choose the accident, but I chose the route that got me there. So where does it all come from?

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.”  ~ C. G. Jung

We learn during our whole lifetime, but for the most part, childhood is where we learn how to live our life making choices. We make them in our own individual way, with a number of factors that influence our methods. And these influences prepare us well or lead us to a series of misguided decisions with negative, even painful, results. As children, the demands on us can create a sense of confidence or mistrust in our judgment.

Situations such as poverty, health issues, disruptive environments, and negative messages can hamper our ability to make sound choices. Trying to live up to roles assigned by our parents can engender security or insecurity. Even where you are in the birth line can make a difference. Nothing is written in stone, but the oldest are usually more independent and self-reliant; the middle may feel shadowed by the others; the youngest more dependent and welcome support.

“Life is all about choices. Good or Bad; Right or Wrong; Your destiny will unfold according to the choices you make.”  ~ Unknown

How many people do you know who look back in regret wishing they’d chosen differently in their work, relationships, health, etc? I can’t count the times I’ve done that. I had to experience 2 years of therapy to learn that my fear, insecurity, poor self-image, loneliness, and so forth had altered my ability to choose wisely. And that’s when I turned the page with wiser choices and happier consequences.

There’s no guarantee that all your choices will be the right ones. But you can learn to create better outcomes most of the time. There’s a saying, “Look at your life, and you’ll see what you have created.” So first look at your life and own responsibility for having created it. Then look at each present situation in your life, and think back in time to what choice you made in the past that created that situation, positive or negative. Some choices may appear to have been some mistakes. But re-examine and see if anything good ultimately resulted from them. You may be surprised.

Now consider what there is within you that may influence your choices, positive or negative. Is it doubting your ability, poor self-image, fear of failure, what will people think, etc? What determines the choices you make? Just being in too much of a hurry could be a problem. With awareness and understanding, you can sometimes correct situations in your life with new choices. And those you can’t change, you can choose ways to better cope.

The next time you have to make a major choice like buying a product, finding a doctor, a new friend, a job, a relationship, or a major life change, analyze what you’re thinking, and get in touch with your gut feeling. Don’t expect a perfect answer, but trust yourself, and vanish any fears. Check your options, get a second opinion, gather needed information, talk it over with someone you trust. All of this information will empower you to move forward in confidence.

You’ve done your homework, and in the future, it will pay off. Maybe not perfect, but you can experience more of the life you long for deep inside. And when you learn, you can teach someone else.

I wish you clear vision and happy results.

Marilyn Fowler, Author/Writer of  “SILENT ECHOES”  and
“ME and GRANMAMA IN THE HILL COUNTRY”  both now on Amazon…

Creature Features, The Ark Of Writing

“Until one has loved an animal a part of one’s soul remains un-awakened.”  – Anatole France

This week I received my second edition of Creature Features, The Ark Of Writing, in which several of my stories have been published. This absolutely breathtaking collection of writings from authors all over the world is published on Cyprus by Rubini Publication, and is dedicated to promoting understanding and compassion for all life throughout the world. I feel extremely fortunate to have some of my stories included in this beautiful presentation.

As stated by Creature Features, “it is a unique, quarterly, illustrated magazine of short stories, articles and poems relating to the creatures of the world, referring to their nature, their character and their relation with man, exhibiting different countries’ feral life, mythology, legend and folklore”. Writings are informative with magnificent illustrations. Some are humorous and heartwarming, and portray the blessing they are in our world. I hope you enjoy my shortened version of Sunny’s story written in his own words.

My name is Sunny, and I’m ten years old. I was adopted when I was a baby. People say I’m a dog, but I don’t buy that. I’m really smart, and they can’t put anything over on me. When I join my parents, Lee and Ginny, at the dinner table, they say, “You’re a dog, and you have a nice bowl there on the floor where I put food and water for you every day.” That’s supposed to convince me? I rest my chin on the table and look at them with my sad brown eyes. Then they feel sorry for me and give me some meat and a peanut butter cookie for dessert. I love peanut butter, and I refuse my medicine unless it’s wrapped in bread and peanut butter. I don’t think dogs are smart enough to pull that one-off.

I have long blond hair, and they call me a Golden Retriever. I slobber a lot, but I can’t help it. It’s just my nature. Sometimes they get annoyed when I demand attention, but it gets lonely being an only child. When company comes, I give them one of my bones, and they pet me. But Lee makes me go lie down. You’d think they’d be glad to have me as an interesting topic of conversation.

Lee and Ginny have strict house rules. I’m confined to the fenced-in back yard, and I’m not allowed upstairs, especially at bedtime. But when Lee’s sister, Nonnie, dog-sits, she lets me sleep by her bed. Then I don’t have to be downstairs alone in the dark. What if a burglar broke in? I like to see Nonnie, but it’s fun when she leaves and they let me out front while they say goodbye. Sometimes they wake me up to water the bushes outside. But I know when I have to go, and I know which bushes need watering. I’m not dumb.

I shouldn’t complain about my family. I know they love me. Ginny brushes me and puts medicine on my skin bumps. Doc says they’re from old age, but I resent that. I’m not old. I even run and chase squirrels and lizards outside. It’s okay though. They know I’m kind and wouldn’t hurt ’em. And I like to drink water from the faucet at the kitchen sink, but I don’t like it when they wipe my mouth with paper towels so I don’t drip on the floor. And I like taking my bone into the den where we watch TV together. They never ask me what I want to see, but they watch the animal channel. And Ginny always hangs her arm over the edge of the sofa and rubs my back. Yep ... I got ’em wrapped around my tail.

Yeah, I got it pretty good, and some of the stories I hear down the street make me happy I’m blessed with the family I have. They’re really good people, and they love me. And they can’t help it if they don’t know I’m one of ’em.

Sunny sends you a happy tail wag.

Marilyn Fowler, Author
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